Believing we can control anything outside of ourselves is an illusion.

My next question is what do you do after you surrender? Do you just try to “go with the flow” even when you’re unhappy? I feel like I’ve been in this passive mindset, and surrender should be active somehow.

This article, How to Surrender Without Giving Up says it nicely:

1.    Surrender keeps you connected. It may involve painful decisions but you can still feel a sense of peace, and a connection with your truth. Giving up feels shallow, reactive, or incomplete inside.

2.    Surrender is a decision. When you surrender, you remain engaged. You step in and chose your role in a situation.  Giving up is not so much a decision as a way out.

3.    Surrender is drama-free. Giving up nearly always involves dramatic exasperation and blame on outside people or circumstances. Surrender needs no fanfare. It makes itself known only through its undeniable clarity.

Surrender doesn’t mean you’re weak or you didn’t try. It means you’ve tried all you can and you’re consciously choosing to let go.

Believing we can control anything outside of ourselves is an illusion.

But we do have the ability to choose our thoughts and responses to everything. When things don’t go our way, we can still move forward without collapsing or giving up. Surrender is a deeper path. ~Christine Kane

Surrender means surrendering the ego. Surrender means surrendering all that you know. Surrender means surrendering your knowledge, your mind, Your intellect. Surrender is a suicide, a suicide of the past.
~Osho

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